The Secret to Regaining Happiness

If you’re anything like me, you were determined to keep things running smoothly as the global economy waxed and waned. That meant forgetting happiness and going into hustle mode. I went into that mode and STAYED THERE, sometimes working up to 100 hours weekly as a peds nurse. THEN I would stay up all night making MC ZULU songs. I was all about chasing a dollar.

The end result: A permanent mindset of Hustle Mode & Promo & Hard Work & Grinding & Pushing Limits & Never Sleeping….
I had forgotten how to be happy. It hit me one time when we took our kids to the arcade. I realized that I was actually BORED! I WANTED TO BE AT WORK!!!! instead of enjoying the day with my kids??

Things were going well but I feel like that happened at the expense of my humanity.

Honestly, right now………………………………… FUCK THAT
Actually FUCK THAT since about 2012. I made a commitment to fitness and family. I stopped touring as much and let all my kids grow up WITH a DAD, instead of some wannabe Rock Star.

That might be more than you want to know about me, but it’s my truth. What’s your truth? If the whole “Sleep when you’re dead” mentality has made it so you’ve forgotten how to LIVE, then you need to make a similar declaration. Nothing you want is worth exchanging your health or quality of life.

HOW DO YOU GET IT BACK?
Get out of your comfort zone! Find things that you SUCK AT and struggle through them. Your journey will be beautiful. One of the things that I learned a while ago is that expertise can be boring. If people know the outcome they will fall asleep. Unpredictability incites curiosity and ultimately positive change. Reinvent yourself. Try as many constructive things as you can, until you find the ones you love. Your body and mind also crave variety. Fitness levels plateau if you do the same workout forever. Life is dynamic not static. You need to mix it up!

Capoeira (like Reggae) is something I love way more than I thought I would. I don’t care who’s better or worse. I’m just happy to be a part of it. Awesome, now find your “Capoeira”, whatever it may be. Chances are though, it lies outside of your comfort zone. Break your routine. Don’t be afraid to start at the beginning!

Your Definition of “WOKE” Says a Lot About You

“In the case of being “Woke” many people claim it, but exactly how Woke are you? It’s a term that’s often thrown around casually. Some people openly admit that they just “don’t want to know” certain things. Like anything else, your awareness is something that can be measured in degrees.

The Physical Plane
Knowledge of self is something that I truly believe is the first step. Becoming self-aware is not easy. For some it never happens until they reach old age. If you want to spare your children a lifetime of confusion, and never knowing what they WANT, help them to achieve at least that level of enlightenment.

The Mental Plane
When you have a strong acumen for the economic and man-made realm you are using your cerebral powers. Hard working, successful people are usually said to have transitioned into the Mental plane of enlightenment. They know what it takes to thrive in such an environment.

The Spiritual Plane
Many people move through life never knowing their place in the universe. A spiritual person considers their actions and the many possibilities that can result from them. As a result they are often the picture of stillness. The stress of the previous planes does not affect them as drastically. It is common for such a person to receive exactly what they need with minimal effort.

It is also my belief that every idea exists on each one of these planes, in a certain manifestation. I’ll refer to them often. However you define enlightenment and being “Woke” though, is up to you, but knowing the approaches might help you to achieve a better outcome.

Money Vs. Wealth… They Are Not Related

Quick thoughts about money vs. wealth, because I see some of my friends and clients working themselves into the ground. The funny thing about it is when they were in survival mode they were much happier. Now they are established, yet obsessed with building more wealth. Unfortunately this obsession has begun to affect their health and well being, so I’ll put these few words here:

Money and Wealth are not related You don’t need a million dollars to feel like a million bucks. Seek the mindstate.

Seek the mindstate of health and wealth.

With that comes a balanced life of happiness and harmony. The amount of capital you amass begins to hold less importance. Ironically that is what enables more money to flow in your direction. Your mind is open to ideas that ultimately could enrich you far beyond your monetary goals. It’s more about of your reaction to stress than anything. Accept each challenge with the conviction that you will overcome it.

If you’ve ever known anyone in a financial bind who received “pennies from heaven” through the mail, or a big sale right before their store closed, then you know this to be true. The mindstate of health and wealth simply PREPARES you for a blessing, as you continue to do your best in life.

Sometimes You’re the Hater

… and you don’t even realize it.
When it comes to opportunity or competition which of the two drive you the most? There is much to be said for healthy competition, and when two people (or teams) have the same goal, it can be the only thing you see. When I played sports or had a military goal in mind competition truly was my number one motivator. In those situations though objectives are clear. Many times there are no options. You do as you’re told, and you don’t ask questions. Outside of a structured environment though being that single-minded can actually hurt you.

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When you are locked into the competitive mindset, you run the risk of not having an exit strategy… meaning you’ll never truly know when you’ve won. Your very definition of winning requires that you have an adversary. This is a person who can be easily manipulated. All you have to do is move the finish line and you’ll have them running the wrong race. People like that don’t race… They chase.

Opportunity as a motivator is the thing I’ve found to be more conducive to living actual life. Instead of chasing what someone else has, you’re granted the clarity to focus in on what you want. The way you describe success is your definition of winning, and you can do that regardless of where other people are in the race. Eventually you’ll come to realize the ultimate truth. Life isn’t a race.

3 Damn Good Ways to Get Rid of Hatred

The current climate festering between people has seen them divided on the basis of race, gender, sexuality, etc. We are constantly at one another’s throats. The situation is being exacerbated for political expedience and financial gain. So it begs the question: What can WE do to stop the hatred?

1) COMMUNICATION: Give the artists more of a voice

One of the ideas that immediately came to mind is that we need to communicate. It needs to happen using a medium that naturally drops our defenses. This speaks to the importance of the arts, particularly music and comedy. Music, even without lyrics can change one’s mindset, while comedians can get you to laugh at yourself. Both art forms can go a long way toward healing divides. This is the “Revolution of the Mind” I always reference. (James Brown gets the credit for that phrase).

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2) SHARING IS CARING: Stop hoarding resources

If we learn to share, it’s is another way to bring people together. Karma dictates that when you give, you also receive. It’s possible to do one without the other but it throws things off balance. Whatever it is that you’re hoarding is at risk of being taken outright by those who do not have.

TAOISM teaches us: If you amass a huge store of gold, no one can protect it

The need for defense creates the “Us vs. Them” dynamic all over again, but much of this can be alleviated simply by developing a sharing mindset. Am I saying don’t get rich? Not at all. Just look for opportunities to share and help others.

3) EMPATHY: Who made it cool to give Zero FKs?

The third idea that occurs to me is that people are often encouraged to develop their LACK of empathy. You’re being praised for NOT caring? Society places more emphasis on material ownership, and less on compassion. People have a twisted view of empathy, making it conform to man-made borderlines or ignorant notions of racial superiority. These are artificial constructs. Empathy is universal.

As valid as these ideas may be, they are not easy. Hatred is easy because you can “set it and forget it”. Love requires constant SELF EVALUATION. There are ideals you yourself must live up to.