Sometimes You’re the Hater

… and you don’t even realize it.
When it comes to opportunity or competition which of the two drive you the most? There is much to be said for healthy competition, and when two people (or teams) have the same goal, it can be the only thing you see. When I played sports or had a military goal in mind competition truly was my number one motivator. In those situations though objectives are clear. Many times there are no options. You do as you’re told, and you don’t ask questions. Outside of a structured environment though being that single-minded can actually hurt you.


When you are locked into the competitive mindset, you run the risk of not having an exit strategy… meaning you’ll never truly know when you’ve won. Your very definition of winning requires that you have an adversary. This is a person who can be easily manipulated. All you have to do is move the finish line and you’ll have them running the wrong race. People like that don’t race… They chase.

Opportunity as a motivator is the thing I’ve found to be more conducive to living actual life. Instead of chasing what someone else has, you’re granted the clarity to focus in on what you want. The way you describe success is your definition of winning, and you can do that regardless of where other people are in the race. Eventually you’ll come to realize the ultimate truth. Life isn’t a race.